An age-grouped collection of games and activities for practising working memory, inhibitory control and flexible thinking, with adults gradually adjusting their help.
School age, 6–12 years
School-age children's attention and language grow a lot, friends start to matter more, and learning to cope with failure becomes important.MedlinePlus (US National Library of Medicine) · School-age children development ↗
What your child is developing
Thinking and learning
- A 6-year-old can usually focus on a task for at least 15 minutes; by 9, for about an hour.MedlinePlus (US National Library of Medicine) · School-age children development ↗
- Around third grade, reading shifts from recognising words to understanding content.MedlinePlus (US National Library of Medicine) · School-age children development ↗
Language
- Sentences grow more complex; a 6-year-old can follow 3 instructions in a row, a 10-year-old about 5.MedlinePlus (US National Library of Medicine) · School-age children development ↗
Social and emotional
- Being accepted by friends becomes more important, and children may join in behaviours to be part of the group.MedlinePlus (US National Library of Medicine) · School-age children development ↗
- Children may "try on" lying or cheating as they learn how rules work; deal with it privately and calmly.MedlinePlus (US National Library of Medicine) · School-age children development ↗
Feelings
- Learning to handle failure and frustration without losing self-esteem is a key task.MedlinePlus (US National Library of Medicine) · School-age children development ↗
Body
- There are big differences in height, build and the age puberty starts.MedlinePlus (US National Library of Medicine) · School-age children development ↗
The research behind it
Start with the finding, then check the study type, source and limits. We select research by topic; a programme’s overall effect does not establish the effect of each activity.Meta-analyses of 75 studies found spanking was linked to a range of poor outcomes for children and was not linked to better behaviour.
Across hundreds of studies, a growth mindset was only weakly linked to school results, and mindset programmes had small average effects. Students from low-income families or who were struggling at school may benefit more.
Randomised trials in Indian government schools found that teaching children at their actual learning level, rather than strictly by the grade syllabus, raised learning when it was implemented well.
A review of 49 studies covering 50 interventions and 23,098 participants aged 2–17 found that several approaches can support self-regulation. Programmes and outcome measures differed substantially.
Using data on more than 350,000 adolescents, the study found that digital technology use explained at most 0.4% of the variation in well-being - a negative but very small association on average.
A meta-analysis of 42 studies. More screen use was linked to weaker language skills, while co-viewing with an adult and better-quality programmes were linked to stronger skills.
Idea roots
Educators whose ideas connect to this stage. Open one to see what modern research supports and what it does not.What you can do together
- Play card and board games that need memory and strategy - from matching games for younger children to chess or Go for older ones.Harvard Center on the Developing Child · Activities for 7–12 years ↗
- As children learn a game, step back and let them remember and enforce the rules themselves.Harvard Center on the Developing Child · Activities for 5–7 years ↗
- Talk about what their friends are doing, so they can fit in without crossing your family's limits.MedlinePlus (US National Library of Medicine) · School-age children development ↗
- Aim for at least 60 minutes of moderate-to-vigorous activity a day, together where you can.World Health Organization, 2020
Selected resources for this stage
Start with one resource that fits your needs. Classic readings are for caregivers to reflect on, not a required reading list for children.
A collection of parenting programmes and materials, including resources for families with children aged 2–9 and young people aged 10–17. It focuses on relationships and preventing violence.
A classic reflection on education that challenges “inert ideas”: knowledge received but never used, tested or connected with experience. This introduction draws on a scholarly account of the book.
An essay in Montaigne’s Essays that asks education to develop judgement through conversation, experience and examining ideas, rather than reward the repetition of other people’s words.
A classic work about education in the home, with an emphasis on habits, judgement, character and the example set by adults. Read it as a historical argument rather than a modern childcare manual.
Free tools for this age
How we choose toolsHealth and safety essentials
- WHO guidelines on physical activity and sedentary behaviour · World Health Organization
- Family Media Plan · American Academy of Pediatrics
- Effective Discipline to Raise Healthy Children (AAP clinical report) · American Academy of Pediatrics; Sege & Siegel
- Physical Development in Girls: What to Expect During Puberty · American Academy of Pediatrics
- Physical Development in Boys: What to Expect · American Academy of Pediatrics
- Vaccines and immunization ↗ · World Health Organization
- Safety and prevention ↗ · American Academy of Pediatrics
Further reading
Classic parenting books with a note on the evidence. Links go to publisher details and library holdings (WorldCat). No affiliate links.Evidence: Practical techniques from the authors' parenting workshops. Evidence level: expert opinion, not a research study.
Evidence: Later meta-analyses found growth-mindset effects on school results are smaller than the book suggests (see the research below).